of child bride, shiah & marriage

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I found myself  blog walking in this space called, OutSyed the Box yesterday, got attracted by a discussion on - Feeling Embarrassed Over "Prophet Marrying A Six Year Old".

As I always am attached to matters like this - masked cultural practices, women related issues, demonization of Islam (which in most instances rooted from some muslims' misinterpretation of Islam/ Quran/ Sunnah & cultural interpretation of many practices which often time patriarchal), the discussion over this issue has stirred my psyche. really.

There was a sudden urge that said I needed to respond to the issue posted in this "Tuan Syed's" blog, intending to share and expand the discussion to something fruitful (I badly need to be back to school again, having f2f discussion with some cikgus, friends like I used to. Amin, ya Rabb!).Sadly enough: my sloth-cursed-internet connection had failed my good intention. And tonight, this is where it takes me: blogging about this.

I don't wish to go deeper tonight as I need to go to bed real soon :) I just wanna place something that is supposed to be my "comment" on this Tuan Syed's comment box, here. Things, I feel so strongly about, so that they would be kept here: becoming a proof of my stirred heart and worked brain :)

Salam,

Some would delve into the differences (physical especially) between a small kid today and a kid of prophet’s days. That needs years of research to find the truth, I believe. Some would simply play finger-pointing, making matters so small big and bigger and some would deviate a little/a lot from the real topic, i.e: child marriage --> allowed or not allowed --> prophet’s story vs modern story --> shiah’s doing???duh..

When things got so messed up like this, I love to think that Islam is so beautiful, there is nothing in Islam that will conflict with 1) the fitrah of mankind (physical, mental, emotional, even spiritual immaturity in most of the kids are their fitrah, aren’t they?) and 2) things like basic human rights that the child bride so deserve i.e: good education, health etc.

Child marriage denies all the above. It takes away small girls’ innocence; it breaks the very fitrah of the girls. And definitely, in most cases, it denies them the rights to go to school, to blossom into maturity naturally, to be healthy etc.

Isn’t it contradictory to what Islam teach when small girls of immaturity be married off?

I cringe at the cultural practices so called “islamic” and “prophet-following” like this one. And wonder, why those practicing don’t care to look at the purpose of marriage in Islam itself: to create Mawaddah & Rahmah between the husband and wife.

Would/could an 8-yr-old wife understand marriage itself and mawaddah and rahmah in one?

Of shiah’s doing – I cringe again and again at some muslims’ preference of finger-pointing, proving their inability to exercise their brain to the fullest and practice logic even in a matter like this. 

Why is it so difficult for us to understand that “Islam itu agama fitrah, sangatlah secocok dgn fitrah manusia”? and..where will this Shiah’s doings finger-pointing take us as far as child marriage is concerned?

Wallahua’lam.

For a full discussion by the blogger named above, pls go to: http://syedsoutsidethebox.blogspot.com/2013/10/feeling-embarrassed-over-prophet.html

so DIFFICULT these guys..

Gie

32, Jalan Pencerahan 

32000 Bandar Minda

Malizi.

Nov 2, 2012

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Mr. George Orwell & Mr. Ernesto Che Guevara

London Street & Havana Calle

0000000000 Posthumous Town

Gone World.

Dear Mr. Authors,

Call me Gie, am Malizian. For many months, I've been trying to get your, (Orwell's) books Sir, entitled "Animal Farm" & "1984" and yours, Che, "Ernesto Che Guevara: The Reminiscences of the Cuban Revolutionary War".

I admire your both great pieces, hoping to learn things, to gain and share ilm, the way my religion teaches me and others.

I believe reading you will lead to a better understanding among people of great differences, the thing that has slowly faded from this modern land, causing  chaotic, torn, troubled and unhappy world. Although your both politico-religio stances are different from mine, I believe that people do share similarities cos we after all, are humans with feelings, brains and emotions.

I'll keep on looking for your great pieces despite them books and you guys being "DIFFICULT ".

Good Bye, Sir! Adios, Che!

Warm Wishes,

Gie

p/s: By the way guys, I love your both cool pics and quotes..Google Image really does a lot of wonders!

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Berkongsi Tahu: Catatan 1

Petikan hasil pembacaan yang ini: Masalah Kebenaran: Dari Paling Mudah ke Paling Kompleks oleh Kassim Ahmad (PEMIKIR, 2011, bil.66, Oktober-Disember 2011, laman 1-8)


"Quran memberi amaran bahawa bangsa Arab akan mengabaikannya.[7] Jika cerdik pandai Arab pada waktu itu memberi perhatian berat kepada amaran ini serta mengelaknya, amaran ini akan memberi manfaat kepada generasi-generasi kemudian. Malangnya, amaran ini gagal didepani dengan berani, maka penyelewangan-penyelewangan berlaku. Banyak hadis palsu timbul. Musuh-musuh Islam menggunakan nama besar Nabi Muhammad untuk memesongkan mereka dari jalan lurus yang Tuhan ajarkan kepada mereka. Melalui institusi hadis, Nabi Muhammad telah didewa-dewakan, berlawanan dengan ajaran beliau, dan ini akhirnya membawa kepada kejatuhan umat Islam. [8]


Kita melihat banyak contoh umat-umat lain - Yahudia, Kristian, Hindu, Buddhist -, yang percaya dan menyembah banyak Tuhan, sedangkan mereka semuanya dikirim nabi dan rasul yang mengajar mereka ajaran Tuhan yang sama, iaitu: "Tiada tuhan melainkan Tuhan Yang Esa. Sembahlah Dia Saja."[9]. Contoh Nabi Isa suatu contoh yang baik bagaimana beliau ditukar menjadi anak Tuhan dalam satu doktrin Tritunggal yang dibuat oleh Paul setelah beliau mati.[10] Semua masyarakat agama yang menyembah banyak tuhan, seperti Hindu, melalui proses pemerosotan konsep Tuhan Yang Esa yang asal. Malah umat Islam sendiri, dengan pendewaan mereka terhadap Nabi Muhammad dan terhadap pemimpin-pemimpin agama, tidak terkecuali daripada proses ini.[11] (Kassim Ahmad, 2011, laman 3)"


# Bila dibaca yang diatas ini, aku tersoal, tertanya dan teruji:


1) Banyak hadis palsu timbul # Jika dilihat dalam gerak hidup masyarakat Muslim Melayu kita..banyak juga yang aku musykilkan..contohnya...malam-malam ramadhan akan dihiasi dengan tazkirah pendek menetapkan nikmat-nikmat dan ganjaran yang bakal diperoleh jika kita menunaikan solat tarawikh pada malam-malam tertentu..dari yang pertama hingga malam menjelang Syawal.dan dipendengaran telinga, tiada pula dimaklumi tentang sanad dan perawi dan bukti dari Al-Quran untuk membuktikan kesahihan "kata-kata galakan ibadah ini". Persoalannya, dari mana boleh timbulnya janji-janji seperti ini?


"Issshhh...tak baik Gie, mempersoalkan hukum agama...berdosa tau!" hati aku kadang-kadang kencang mengingatkan..


Persoalan pokok: bukan hukum Allah yang aku pertikaikan..segala amal ibadah dan perbuatan baik tuh memang dah termaktub dalam Al-Quran bakal diberi ganjaran..hatta sebesar zarah..walau sekadar niat. Yang dipersoalkan disini, oleh seorang aku yang daif jahil agama ini ialah: dari mana datangnya ayat-ayat galakan ibadah seperti di atas? Adakah ianya bersumberkan hadis dan sunnah? Betulkah ianya wujud atau sekadar kata-kata perangsang agar kita lebih rajin bertarawikh?


Dalam Islam...matlamat tidak menghalalkan cara..walaupun niat kita mungkin baik-untuk menggalakkan ummah mengimarahkan masjid bagi sesi tarawikh, tapi bolehkah kita ada-adakan apa yang mungkin tiada???Aku terkesima dalam persoalan sendiri...mungkin aku patut tanya kakakku, Ustazah Norhapizah dalam masa terdekat ni..


2) Pendewaan terhadap Nabi Muhammad dan pemimpin-pemimpin agama # Teman-teman, kalu pikir logik lah...sedangkan pendewaan kepada Nabi Muhammad, pemimpin-pemimpin agama, yang menurut penulis (bersandarkan kepada rujukan beliau) pun boleh saja membawa kepada syirik..apatah lagi kalau didewa-dewakan pemimpin-pemimpin politik...kesatuan...pertubuhan...kumpulan..


Mesej yang aku cuba sampaikan disini...kita dah menghampiri Pilihan Raya Umum...berpolitik/berpersatuan/berkumpulan pun berpada-padalah...pemimpin-pemimpin ini adalah manusia berdarah merah, bernafsu dan berotak sama seperti kita...didepan lain, dibelakang tah macam mana...maka kau sokonglah berpada-pada...bangkang pun berpada-pada..siapa kita untuk tahu apa yang terselindung disebalik muka dan hati manusia?


Kita manusia..mereka juga manusia..tak berbaloi weh gaduh-gaduh..tokok dosa..cantas pahala hanya disebabkan parti politik...dalam kuburan pun, tiada soalan parti politik manakah yang disokong..kena selalu beringat...ahli politik dan pemimpin yang benar-benar menjihadkan Islam adalah dua perkara yang besar bezanya...dan di tanah tumpah negara ku ini...yang aku nampak dari parti CAP SAUH, CAP MATAHARI, CAP JET PEJUANG, CAP MATA SATU dll... keperibadian politiknya lebih kuat dari keperibadian Muslim sejati itu sendiri..sekadar pandangan peribadi...entahlah...


Tutup Entri: Please don't be political animals..Do not stoop so low to that level...we are all the chosen khalifahs in this world, with certain duties and roles...we are just not that a.n.i.m.a.l.